Looks Can Be Deceiving

Nothing captured our attention more than the shocking news that Peter Cook, Christy Brinkley’s husband of 10 years, cheated on her with a beautiful teenager. Before this information, Christy Brinkley and her husband seemed to be the perfect couple, which once again shows you what looks perfect on the outside doesn’t always reflect what’s going on behind closed doors. Cheating has nothing to do with how attractive a partner is. It usually has more to do with a person’s character and what is going on with him/her internally. The temptation to cheat is probably harder to combat when you are a performer with a lot of opportunity to get involved in a cloistered situation like a movie set and then have tons of people throwing themselves your way. And then there is the David Navarro and Carmen Electra situation. Who’s sexier than Carmen Electra?! Yet her husband of only a few years was reported to have more than just a roving eye.

Relationships Evolve

Relationships feel different during different phases. Just because a couple doesn’t have that "I can’t live without you … let’s be together every second" kind of feeling that happened in the beginning, it doesn’t mean the relationship is over. New is not always better — even if that new individual comes packaged in a younger body form. Seasoned relationships feel different than new relationships, where a partner usually gets idealized. In a sound and growing relationship, you start to realize that your husband or wife is not perfect; they are flawed, and perhaps no longer want to stay in bed all day long. But successful marriages don’t give up on their partners prematurely, for they understand that it actually takes time to develop a deep and long-lasting marriage. After the newness wears off is the time when two real people, imperfections and all, learn to embrace and love one another unconditionally. And what can be better than that? Not much, for that’s real intimacy!

Learning From Celebrity Relationships

What can we learn from these celebrity relationships? A lot! Successful marriages require time, work, maturity and attention. Couples need to think about the big picture and not give in to the hedonistic and self-centered tendencies of the moment (and let’s face it, you don’t need to be a celebrity to give into those tendencies). Successful marriages require friendship and a willingness to focus on each other on a regular basis. So, go out there and make your marriage the best it can be. It’s worth it!